A few months back, my former (note the past tense) sitter and I were talking about the difficulties and frustrations with weight loss. Now mind you, if you recall some of my earlier posts, I tipped the scales at 180 lbs right before I gave birth to my son back in 2002. For someone with a 5'2" frame, I looked like a tick ready to explode. My point? I know what it's like to be overweight - been there. The conversation continued and I offered some of my tactics and information collected during my own journey. Then the she dropped the bomb on me ... "Well, it's easy for you, you're skinny."
Huh? It's easy for me? For a sugar addict that was 50 lbs above her post delivery weight, and struggled through depression and tears for about 6 years after the birth of her first child with an awful body image, this was a blow that sent me reeling. My grandmother had a plaque in her kitchen that I memorized as a child with a great saying "Never judge a man (or woman!) until you've walked a mile in their moccasins." It still holds true to me today. Every person is unique and distinct with their own set of body challenges. For me it came down to 3 specific things:
- Being honest with myself about the extent of my weight gain
- Becoming conscious of my intake versus what I would expend in any given day
- Realizing and acknowledging my own inherent issues when it came to food (all the behavioral stuff)
Losing weight is no easy task. And if you think it's just a "task" you're doomed to failure. Dropping "a few pounds for a special occasion is not going to translate into sustained loss. It's going to come back sooner or later like a boomerang - take it from me, I've gained and lost 10 lbs repeatedly. And it's a daily struggle for me, like it is for most people. Operating under the misperception that your dissatisfaction with your body can be chaled up to being issued the wrong body type doesn't accomplish anything. If you need to vent to make yourself feel better, I'll give you that. But if you want to get down to business, make some serious progress towards a healthier life and well being, then get up and do something about your situation, it's in your hands.
For me, it was diagnosing a medical issue (my thyroid), taking a hard look at what I eat, and finding exercise and activities that I could commit myself to. My Sensei, Craig Boone at Pace Karate in Wanaque is the person I credit with helping me to carve out the body I have today. It's his constant pushing and challenging me that has inspired me to invest the sweat equity. And guess what? I looked so good at a recent music festival in my short skirt, that I was filmed by Sky TV! Talk about a great ego trip! I'm not suggesting that camera crews are going to beat down your doors if you get your body in order, but think of the pride in knowing that your body looks and feels it's best. That's what keeps me going every day.