When I started writing this post my plan was for it to be only about those aspects of gay life that bother me. But as I worked on it I decided I didn't want to come across as a jaded queen, especially because there is plenty I enjoy about the gay milieu. Therefore, I chose to give both sides equal time.
> Porn stars who think they're going to have a second career as professional singers
> The total lack of sexual chemistry between Modern Family's Cameron and Mitchell
> Photos of Chaz Bono barechested
> Little kids on the ferry to the Pines
> Fawning over Anderson Cooper
> Boys who sashay
> Groups of loud, straight women at gay bars
> Couples who insist on holding hands at crowded clubs, with one dragging the other through the throng
> An air-brushed Ellen DeGeneres, who looks increasingly like a pre-pubescent Ricky Schroeder
> The sad decline of Christopher St. - and Key West
> Classic Disco night at the Monster
> Lady Gaga, Madonna and Cher
> Judy Garland's 1963-64 variety show on DVD
> A tatoo on the nape of the neck or base of the tailbone - and nowhere else (in other words, tasteful understatment)
> Fire Island beach walks; summer afternoons lazing about Christopher St. pier
> Low tea at the Blue Whale
> "Broadway Bares"
> The barechested bartenders at Splash in their skivvies
> The websites Towleroad, Subway Crush, AfterElton and MenTwoGether
> Same-sex marriage in New York state
> The Tony Awards, especially when Neil Patrick Harris is the host
> Beyonce's song Love on Top (for its title alone!)
> Guys who follow sports (whether at Gym Bar or not)
> Next and Metrosource
> Gotham Volleyball and other gay sports leagues (including Front Runners)
> The fact that Kylie Minogue and the Pet Shop Boys have never been embraced by the U.S. mainstream makes them even more special
> Although the future of Hostess Twinkies may be in jeopardy, the supply of twinkies on 8th Avenue in Chelsea remains plentiful
> An appreciation of "camp"
So it turns out the pluses edged out the minuses, 22 to 18. And if I failed to mention something or someone it suggests indifference, which may be the worst sentiment of all.