Most of us find ourselves attracted to a man based on his physical characteristics and/or personality traits. I can't imagine that an individual's first name is a deal breaker, but it may serve as the cherry on top. However, some names seem to stimulate the pleasure center in the brain more than others. Interestingly, as I think about my favorite names, very few men in my social circle have a name on this list (see list below). For the most part, the names of my friends, boyfriends and acquaintances (past and present) are neutral, e.g., Michael, David or Brian. Of course, I'd never choose to date or not date someone because of their first name. But if I had a bad experience with someone their name might stick in my subconscious and cause some trepidation if I encountered it again.
Looking through my journals, I conducted a census and counted nearly 350 gay men who've been in my life for one reason or another They have 166 different names. Sorted into ten categories, more than two-thirds fell into four of them: Dating/Relationships (24%); Colleagues from Work (18%); Acquaintances I came to know through friends (15%); and Friends (14%).
Of the gay men that have been part of my life in some way, the most common names are: Michael (14); Mark (12); John (9); David (9) and George (8). Nearly two-thirds of these 166 different names have just one person attached to it. Some of the more unique ones are: Arunas, Barrington, Blandon, Cyg, Dmitry, Jatinder, Kemper and Kuba.
Only once have I dated someone who had the same name as me. And while we were dating we met a couple at a Christmas party who were also both named Rob.
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