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January 2015

Gaydom's Basket of Deplorables




At the end of 2014, Chris Hughes, millionaire owner of the New Republic (and a co-founder of Facebook), generated a torrent of bad press when he announced significant changes at the revered political publication (made with a digital future in mind).  This resulted in mass staff resignations and recriminations.  Hughes is just one of many accomplished LGBT personalities knocked off their pedestal, at least temporarily, by their words, actions or overbearing personality.  Perhaps because we view openly-gay persons who are in the public eye as an inspiration (or at least I do), it stings more when they stumble than when straight movers and shakers slip up.  What follows is a list of others who have trip, stumbled and fallen ...




  • Milo Yiannopoulos - The homosexual version of the loathsome Ann Coulter, both having built their careers by spewing invective.  However, he's not nearly the threat ultra-liberals believe him to be; he's just a silly queen/media whore.  I don't believe that he has any deep political convictions, he just knows how to bait those who are hyper-sensitive, and reap the attention from their shock.  These reactions are his oxygen, without them he wouldn't survive. 


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  • Domenico Dolce & Stefano Gabbana - The famed Italian design duo, known for their sizzling fashion ads featuring European soccer and rugby players, were excoriated by every gay celeb under the sun after declaring that children born through in vitro fertilization were "children of chemistry, synthetic children. Uteruses for rent, semen chosen from a catalog."




  • Don Lemon - CNN anchor who the Columbia Journalism Review chose as the worst journalist in 2014 because of his many on-air gaffes and “cringe-worthy blunders.”




  • Richard Chamberlain - In a 2010 interview in the Advocate the actor, 76 years old at the time, advised gay leading-type actors to stay in the closet.




  • Michelle Shocked - The folk singer made somewhat incoherent anti-gay remarks during a 2013 concert at a San Francisco coffee house.  Once claiming to be a lesbian, she became a born-again Christian, which began her conversion to homophobe.




  • Quentin Crisp - A British writer and gadabout, Crisp wasn't supportive of gay rights and claimed that being gay was a disease.  Perhaps it was a generational thing.  He died in 1999 one month shy of his 91st birthday.




  • John Galliano - His drunken, anti-Semitic tirade in a Paris bar in 2011 got him canned from his position as fashion director at Christian Dior.




  • Karl Lagerfeld - The German fashion designer who  spoke out against same-sex marriage as well as men raising children - but has no problem with lesbians raising kids.  (Update: Lagerfeld died in Feb. 2019 at the age of 85.)




  • Sam Adams - Former mayor of Portland, Oregon, he became embroiled in controversy when it was revealed he had a relationship with an underage man (17-year-old Beau Breedlove, 24 years his junior).  Eyes rolled when Adams claimed the two waited until Breedlove turned 18 to have sex.





  • Andy Cohen - Shame on Cohen for blighting the TV landscape with the noxious “Housewives of …” reality series on Bravo that he produces.  Celebrating toxic, vulgar personalities and their anti-social behavior, these dreadful people became the worst kind of role models (i.e., if you want to become famous this is how you act). With a steady dose of this show, the casts' ugly displays seemed less shocking to viewers.  And now we have Donald Trump as president.  Not so amusing anymore is it?  (Update: In 2019 Cohen became a father through a surrogate.)


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  • Elton John - Having done so much fund-raising for AIDS charities, it came as a shock when it was reported that he performed at the late Rush Limbaugh's 2010 wedding and was paid $1 million for his apostasy.  Then two years later at the Golden Globes he was ridiculed for his petulant response after losing to Madonna for Best Song in a Movie.  An even earlier controversy had him performing with homophobic Eminem at the 2001 Grammys.  Ironically, five years after his wedding performance Sir Elton was one of those who shouted loudest after Dolce & Gabbana made their controversial comment about children born thru in vitro fertilization.




  • Boy George - He was arrested for keeping a male escort imprisoned in his London flat in 2007; ended up spending 15 months in jail.




  • Andrew Sullivan - An early proponent of gay marriage when he was editor of the New Republic, he sullied his reputation in 2001 when it was disclosed that, despite the fact he was HIV+, he searched chat rooms seeking partners for barebacking.




  • George Michael - The gifted singer/songwriter was arrested for public indecency at a public bathroom in Beverly Hills in 1998 and then in 2006 an escapade at a London cruising spot was publicized (the fellow he tricked with reported that Michael was a great kisser).  Two years later he was busted in a public toilet in London for possession of crack.  And on another occasion he was found passed out in his car.  (Update: Michael died on Christmas Day 2016 at the age of 53.)




  • Jodie Foster - Until last year, when she kinda-sorta came out during the Golden Globes, Foster was a lightning rod for anger because of her refusal to come out publicly (to a lesser degree this was the case with Anderson Cooper as well).  Adding fuel to the fire was her continued friendship with Hollywood pariah Mel Gibson.




  • Richard Hatch - After the gay nudist won the first season of Survivor in 2000 he spent the first decade of the new century in and out of prison for tax evasion.  In the midst of all of this he appeared on a number of other reality shows and made an embarrassing cameo in 2006's Another Gay Movie.




  • Aaron Hicklin - Editor-in-chief of Out Magazine, he fired his editorial staff in the spring of 2012 with the intention of hiring them back as freelancers with no benefits or full-time salaries. 




  • Christine Quinn - This New York City politician angered many New Yorkers when she supported the overturning of term limits when Michael Bloomberg wanted to run for a third term as mayor.  She was also criticized for not fighting harder to save St. Vincent's Hospital in Greenwich Village.  (Voters got even when she finished a distant third in the Democratic primary for mayor in 2013 - and hasn't been heard from since.)




  • Paula Poundstone - In 2001 the comedian made headlines after she was arrested for child endangerment involving her three adoptive and two foster children.




  • Barney Frank - In the late 1980s the Massachusetts congressman had a relationship with a male prostitute who later, unbeknownst to Frank, was running an escort service out of his DC townhouse.  He also fixed 33 of the man's parking tickets.  This resulted in Frank being called before the House Ethics Committee where he was officially reprimanded but escaped censure.





  • Larry Kramer - His caustic personality alienates many (e.g., it got him exiled from GMHC, which he had helped found), but it's something he wears as a badge of honor.  (Update: Kramer died in 202o a month shy of his 85th birthday.)




  • Michael Lucas - Outspoken porn impresario who has alienated many with his strong political opinions in support of Israel, PrEP AIDS treatment and right-wing nut job Ann Coulter.




  • Rupert Everett - British actor who claims he would have had a more successful career if he had remained closeted.  Also had negative things to say about gay men raising children.  Bitter because he believes he's been ignored by Hollywood, the fact is he worked a lot in the 1990s.  It was his 2000 flop with Madonna, The Next Best Thing, that may have derailed his career.  (Perhaps Downton Abbey can cast him as a love interest for villainous Thomas?)  An article last summer on Queerty had the headline, "Self-Hating Gay Rupert Everett as Bitter as Ever."  




  • Rosie O'Donnell - First there was a nasty breach of contract lawsuit in 2003 between her and the publisher of her magazine Rosie (formerly McCall's); the judge in the case awarded no damages to either party.  Then in 2006 she had an idiotic dispute with Donald Trump.  Although she's entertaining and has a good heart, O'Donnell is like a bull in a china shop.




  • Perez Hilton - Although his blog is very popular, his obnoxious personality has regularly gotten him into hot water (e.g., he was roughed up by will.i.am outside a Toronto nightclub in in 2009).  It's said that any celebrity who's friendly with Hilton is doing so to protect himself/herself from his rumor-mongering.  However, over the past few years he's mellowed, perhaps because he's now raising a child.

















Michael Sam - First the NFL, Then the Cover of GQ

Michael.sam.gqNot only does defensive end Michael Sam have the distinction of being the first openly gay player drafted by the National Football League, but later that same year (2014) he became the first openly gay person to appear on the cover of GQ.  In GQ's history there have been a handful of closeted cover subjects (e.g., Rock Hudson, Greg Louganis, Kevin Spacey) and NFL players have been well represented (including Mark Sanchez, Tim Tebow, Colin Kaepernick, Cam Newton, Tom Brady, and Tiki Barber), but never before had someone who was openly gay and an NFL member graced its cover until the 24-year-old University of Missouri graduate was chosen for the honor.  And although he, ultimately, was released by two teams and never clocked any playing time, Sam's appearance is still a milestone to salute.  (An honor not bestowed upon openly gay NBA player, Jason Collins, who came out a year before Sam and briefly played for the Brooklyn Nets in 2014 before retiring at the end of the season.)


Sam will garner more attention in March when he appears as a contestant on ABC's Dancing with the Stars, becoming the show's third LGBT participant (Lance Bass, Carson Kressley and Chaz Bono were the others).


Tattoos - Why?

Tattoo1In the late 1970s gay men embraced what became known as the "clone" look, which featured a flannel shirt, mustache and a hanky in a rear pocket (one's sexual proclivities were communicated by the color of the hanky and in which pocket it was displayed).  Painter's pants and a Lacoste shirt with an upturned collar were de riguer in the early eighties.  Then the look transformed into that of the AIDS activist, which was characterized by a Silence=Death t-shirt and Doc Martens.  Come the mid-nineties and the "Chelsea Boy" look emerged, characterized by earrings, piercings, soul patch, a shaved chest and a gym body to show it all off.  And now in the 21st century tattoos and beards predominate.  But while you can take off a flannel shirt or remove piercings, that's not so easy with a tattoo.  Like a mole or birthmark, it's more or less permanent (and will likely clash with whatever new fads come along.)


Tattoos.comparisonWhat compels someone to adorn themselves with these irreversible markings?  Narcissism easily comes to mind, or an extreme need for attention (especially true for those sporting expansive/intrusive tats).  Probably more people observe such body art with puzzlement as in admiration.  As I see it, getting a prominent tattoo would be akin to me being so enchanted with a necktie that I never want to take it off, no matter the occasion.  I'd wear it with a suit, at the gym, on the beach, in the shower, etc. 


Tattoo.on.ass.paul.doran.jonesDon't get me wrong, some of the more complex tattoos are works of art, and they're further enhanced when displayed on a beautiful body.  But why would someone want to look like they should be hanging on the wall of an art gallery?  (If Michelangelo were alive today perhaps he might have chosen to etch his masterpiece on his boyfriend's muscled back rather than on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel!)  I admit that some tattoos enhance sex appeal, especially if they're found at the nape of the neck, on the lower back or the buttocks (as pictured).  Understated, sparse and concealed adds to the appeal.  However, when I'm in bed with a man I prefer my mind not be distracted by an expansive tattoo covering pecs, stomach, back, neck, etc.  If I want to see a work of art I'll visit MOMA.


SailorsandtattoosOf course, tattoos aren't a gay-only adornment.  In fact, they've been handed down to us by generations of dockworkers, sailors, boxers, Maori tribesmen and other hyper-masculine archetypes - which may be why some gay men are drawn to them (similar to the appeal of "bears" and the '70s clone look).  But is worshipping at this altar of virility worth the price?  (The same question can be asked about steroids.)


Smoothskin Excessive.tattoosThe gay tattoo fad seems to have lasted longer than most, probably because so many "trendsetters" themselves have tattoos.  Stuck with them, they're likely loathe to admit to being stuck with a tired look.  However, when a new generation of ink-less fashionistas annoints the next must-have look, it may be traumatic for those saddled with tattoos.  A new support group may be on the horizon.