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How to Make Your New Years Resolutions Stick

Sun 4We all start new years with the best of intentions as we create lists of new years resolutions. But no sooner do we make them, we break them. Here is a way to help our better inclinations win out in 2019:

According to CBS news, there are steps you can take to better insure success:

Be honest with yourself. 

Often times, we set goals because we think that’s what we’re supposed to do. “Many people don’t make their own resolutions out of what’s most meaningful and desirable for them but they set it out of what other people told them they need to do out of fear or guilt,” said Dr. Karen Lawson, director of the Integrative Health Coaching program at the Center for Spirituality & Healing at the University of Minnesota. “So the motivation doesn’t come from within but comes from the outside and that doesn’t tend to lead to success.” Be honest with yourself and figure out what is important and valuable to you so you can set a goal that comes from within.

Stick to one thing. 

Trying to accomplish multiple goals at once will quickly get overwhelming and only lead to failure. Stick to one thing, master it, and move onto the next. Having trouble deciding which goal to work on first? Graef recommends first focusing on the behaviors that get the mind and body running more effectively, like exercising, eating nutritious foods, or quitting smoking

From there, take inventory of all the goals you have for yourself and figure out which you are most passionate about. “Think to yourself, ‘If I knew that this was going to be my final year on earth, how would I really want to spend that time?’” Graef said. 

Another strategy is to focus on the goals that will benefit you in significant ways. “Am I going to spend three months learning salsa dancing, or if there’s an opportunity in the future to do a lot more public speaking, maybe someone would rather spend those three months on that because they know it’s going to have the most transcendent impact on not only their career but their comfort level in other social settings, as well,” Graef said.

Make SMART goals. 

When it comes to setting goals, stick to the SMART method. That means making your goals:

Measurable
Achievable
Relevant
Time-based

“This gets people to identify very concrete and specific steps,” Lawson said. “You might have a grand goal of ‘I want to be a better person,’ but OK, let’s bring that home and figure out what that actually looks like and how you can move in that direction. It’s not that you can’t have those lofty goals, but bring them down and make them concrete.” For example, if your goal is to think more positive thoughts, Lawson recommends setting an alarm on your watch or phone twice a day and when it goes off, take a moment to think about something specific that you’re grateful for.

Arrange your environment for success

If certain aspects of your environment are hindering your progress, change them. Want to wake up earlier but find yourself hitting snooze every morning? Graef suggests putting your alarm clock on the other side of the room so you will be forced to get up to turn it off. Having trouble making it to the gym? Sleep in your gym clothes to make it easier to get out the door for a morning workout. Can’t stop snacking? Get the junk food out of your pantry and refrigerator and replace them with healthier options like fruits, vegetables, and nuts.

Chart your progress. 

Once you’ve identified your goal and have a specific plan set for how to achieve it, tracking your progress is key to success. “It feels very good to check things off and cross them off, so that’s very rewarding in and of itself,” Graef said. Having a visual picture of your progress can also be helpful. “If on your calendar, you’ve marked off five days in a row where you’ve met your goals, that’s going to really increase the likelihood that you don’t want to break that on the sixth day. It just looks aesthetically pleasing to the human eye to have that consistency in that tracking,” Graef said.

Make yourself accountable. 

Take steps to make yourself accountable for your goals to help stay motivated. For example, if you aim to run a 10K, sign up for one and pay for it in advance. Though Graef notes that this strategy may not work for everyone, announcing your goals on social media can also help some people stay motivated. Alternatively, simply sharing your resolutions with family members and close friends and discussing your progress with them can help keep you on track.

Celebrate successes and be compassionate with yourself when you slip. 

“People on the whole tend to be harder on themselves than they are with other people. They tend to beat themselves up,” Lawson said. “So when we have a day when we fall down on the diet, instead of telling yourself that you’re weak or bad, tell yourself that you had a bad day and that tomorrow’s a new day to start over.” It’s important to be compassionate with yourself, acknowledge your slips, and move on. 

Similarly, celebrating successes — however small — is important to success. “Acknowledge when you had a really great day, or even a really great moment an hour ago,” Lawson said. “Figure out ways to be happy and joyful and congratulatory for when you’re doing it right.”

 


Horoscope for the Week of December 31, 2018

Jude lawThe new year can deliver an array of assorted emotional stuff. Four planets in serious Capricorn square shocking Uranus causing some unintended consequences in sensitive matters. But don't panic. Let’s set New Year’s resolutions in place and see where the itch really needs to be scratched.

(Jude Law has Sun in Capricorn)

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ARIES (MARCH 21 - APRIL 20)
Aries may chaff at the idea that they are a true corporate animal. How much do you feel that you need to compromise on your career to get you where you really want to go in life? The answer now may surprise you. Before you take quick actions, play out the scenarios and see which one brings you the most satisfaction while still meeting your overhead costs this year.

TAURUS (APRIL 21 - MAY 21)
Itchy feet demand to be taken on a vacation. Taureans want to break out of their hum drum and ratchet their life up a bit. But there may be things going on behind the scenes that change your course and lead you down strange pathways. It may be a great departure or it may waste your time. The challenge is to see which is which before you take the first step.

GEMINI (MAY 22 - JUNE 21)
Sexy Geminis may allow their actions to take precedence over their common sense. You are tempted to take a platonic relationship to new heights of passion. But are you risking a wonderful friendship on what might turn out to be a short hot fling? Maybe that is what the relationship needs ... but maybe not. Think it out before you leap. Will you soar or splat?

CANCER (JUNE 22 - JULY 23)
Cancers may be split between what their public persona demands and their ties to a certain relationship. Are your partnerships holding you back from success or giving you a good grounding so you don’t wander into dangerous deep waters? It is up to you to assess and decide. Set your priorities and spend the new year implementing each one.

LEO (JULY 24 - AUGUST 23)
You may feel tied down, Leo. But what you see as restraint is just the cosmos advising you to take your time. You have a lot to do and not enough time to get it all done. Step back to see what is really going on and how to use your deep knowledge to make tasks easier and completed faster. Then you can kick back and continue the new year festivities.

VIRGO (AUGUST 24 - SEPTEMBER 23)
A light romance can burst into passionate and intense flames. Usually level-headed Virgos may not know what hit them as their defenses are lowered and their heart is open. Why ask why? It might be a new year’s treat if you go into any love relationship with your eyes open. Stay centered and you will be well prepared for any outcome.

LIBRA (SEPTEMBER 24 - OCTOBER 23)
Libras are either looking to settle down or take a current living arrangement and make it much more permanent. This can mean a move or it can mean a move in. Or maybe a brand new move forward? Whatever you decide to do, do it from a position of strength. Decide what you need to be happy and make it happen. That is your number one new year’s resolution.

SCORPIO (OCTOBER 24 - NOVEMBER 22)
If you have some aches and pains, don’t let them impede the full enjoyment of your life. Scorpios may try to postpone but now it is time to get off your couch and make some personal gains. This is no year to sit on the sidelines watching the world go by. Join the parade and set its direction. Who knows where this will all lead? Whoo hoo!

SAGITTARIUS (NOVEMBER 23 - DECEMBER 22)
How will you spend your time and money, Sagittarius? Will you splurge on a few festivities or will you save for a future rainstorm? Whatever you decide to do, be sure that it fits with your overall life plans. Don’t defer to tomorrow what you can enjoy today. And conversely, don’t waste your hard earned dough on something that won’t rise to the occasion. Ah decisions!

CAPRICORN (DECEMBER 23 - JANUARY 20)
New things are in store for any Capricorn who knows their inner self, what they want and where they want to go. Are you that type? If so, take a chance. If you are still contemplating your navel, take your time in deciding anything and everything. Things are fluid and moving. You can float for a while or dive right in. The idea is to just get wet.

AQUARIUS (JANUARY 21 - FEBRUARY 19)
Secrets swirl around you and you are tempted to share them with anyone and everyone. Try not to, Aquarius. There are some secrets that are worth preserving, at least for a while. Right now you are in the center of all the intrigue and can use your deep knowledge to craft the world to your way of thinking. Choose your words carefully and chew up all enemies.

PISCES (FEBRUARY 20 - MARCH 20)
Friends may need an inordinate amount of your help now, Pisces, from time to money. Are you up to the task? If so, be generous but careful. If not, try to find a way to help without having to give them money- It might eventually cause a rift between the two of you. Resolve to be as helpful as you can this year without feeling that you are over-extended.

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Lucky Numbers for the Week of December 28, 2018

Lottery ads tell us you only need a dollar and a dream. But it is also helpful to have a list of lucky numbers to help spur the good fortune ... or fortunes. So with that in mind, here are some lucky numbers that can be used in any helpful way. I gazed into a pool of water, Nostradamus-like, and contemplated the cosmos. Then I mixed the tarot cards and allowed the spirits to guide me to the cards that represent the lucky numbers for this week. Nothing is guaranteed but who knows ....?

I choose eight numbers because 8 is the number of wealth.

Here are the lucky numbers for the week of December 28, 2018-January 3, 2019:

3, 10, 14, 28, 47, 59, 68, 73

There are many ways to delve into your own consciousness to find luck and intuition. Try reading Dream Power/Improve Your Luck (Super Strength Series) and see if your dreams give you any clues and premonitions. Here's a guide to the best books available this month


What is Yin Yoga

I have begun to practice yin yoga for a few reasons. One is that, being glaucoma suspect, I have been advised not to do inverted yoga poses like downward dog. That restricts what I can do in regular yoga classes. With yin, that is not an issue since yin is more stretching and more relaxed. What a great thing to do for the new year!

Now:Yoga just sent me an email which is informative for all interested in learning more about both yin and restorative yoga - both great for those who cannot do inverted positions:

what is yin?

The perfect complement to dynamic (yang) fitness and busy city life, yin yoga is a quieter, more inward practice that utilizes long-held, floor-based postures which benefit your deeper “yin” connective tissues, such as the fascia, for the purpose of increasing circulation in the joints, improving flexibility through myofascial release, and releasing tension in the neck, shoulders, hips, and hamstrings. A more meditative approach to yoga, yin aims to cultivate awareness of inner silence and to revitalize our energies.

In this 2-hour yin workshop, supported by the healing environment at Now Yoga, we’ll work with the breath and the prana vayus. Prana means “life force,” and vayu means “wind” or “direction of energy.” Working with the vayus can help us regulate the physical body, mental health, and energetic renewal, and to find greater steadiness and life balance.

Register here for Yin Yoga for Stress Relief this Friday 11/30 from 6:30pm–8:30pm
 
 
come for yin,
stay for restorative
 

Sink into two full hours of yoga in a practice designed just for women to help us unplug, turn inward, and cultivate rest, leaving us revitalized for the rest of the weekend. 

Class will begin with some active movement for building heat and stretching out, and will then move into a series of restorative postures. These restorative poses will utilize plenty of props (bolsters, blankets, straps, blocks) to support the body’s complete release of effort for maximum relaxation.

 


Horoscope for the Week of December 24, 2018

David bowieBring on the holiday festivities as the Sun enters Capricorn and conjuncts Pluto. But don’t be surprised if any perfect party plans are upended, transformed and made even better ... or not. It all depends if you have been naughty or nice. Ho, ho, ho.

(David Bowie had Sun in Capricorn)

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ARIES (MARCH 21 - APRIL 20)
Generate more attention in your career efforts so you can gather your professional awards before the end of the year. Aries will be able to highlight their good points to those in power in surprisingly effective ways. Show them what you are made of. After you grab the glory, find ways of creating a little mischief in your life with a merry elf or two. Decorations optional...

TAURUS (APRIL 21 - MAY 21)
Taureans may decide to take a fling with a friend when your wildest fantasies find an appreciative audience and your heated efforts produce results. Travel far afield and see what the world offers you. You may discover some happy surprises that bolster your confidence towards the end of the year. Let’s hope those surprises come wrapped from Tiffany. Ahem.

GEMINI (MAY 22 - JUNE 21)
How much fun can a Gemini have with a certain sexy someone? The cosmos pops your cork throughout the week and makes you pretty sexy yourself. Don’t be shy under the mistletoe. Pour the love liberally and don’t worry about spillage. You have a rare opportunity to demonstrate your ability to charm anyone you choose. Hmmm. How choosy will you be?

CANCER (JUNE 22 - JULY 23)
Cancers are happiest when ensconced in a relationship. Thank your lucky stars now as you are able to strike a match. If you’re already spoken for, use the time around the holidays to solidify and cocoon. If you’re still trawling, try casting your net farther afield. Or send out a search party with the emphasis on party. New Years ain’t that far off!

LEO (JULY 24 - AUGUST 23)
Don’t let your energy lag this week. There is just too much to do and many things to accomplish before the end of the year. Leos may find that they can’t decide what things are the most important to tackle first. When in doubt, try asking Santa, or a helpful assistant, for advice or help. Then you can stuff as many stockings as you want. Whew!

VIRGO (AUGUST 24 - SEPTEMBER 23)
Virgos can ready their party tricks for the festive holiday week. Join the conga line and boogie. You will have a choice of invitations and you will have to decide who to grace with your presence (as well as presents...). But hurry. Before you know it you’ll have to catch up on last minute job demands. Ho ho ho! Turn out the light when you leave.

LIBRA (SEPTEMBER 24 - OCTOBER 23)
Libras strive for balance and harmony. So why not try to repair any frayed family connections now? Make one last try at harmony before the new year and you won’t regret it. You have a strong support system that is there if you need them. And no matter how your good wishes are received, you’ll be party-hearty-ready and karmically in harmony.

SCORPIO (OCTOBER 24 - NOVEMBER 22)
Make your opinions known Scorpio. Your words pack an extra oomph. It’s never too late to become politically involved in important community issues. Work your diplomatic magic before the new year as you mingle and swingle. After that, you’ll be content to whisper sweet nothings in the ear of a certain you-know-who or even a you-will-know-who.

SAGITTARIUS (NOVEMBER 23 - DECEMBER 22)
There is a light at the end of the fiscal tunnel for all Sagittarians who have begun to focus on their money flow. Have you been a prudent saver or a reckless splurger? Now you can research, review and change course if you need to. But remember that money cannot buy everything. Then again, it does buy nice New Years champagne...

CAPRICORN (DECEMBER 23 - JANUARY 20)
Capricorns are rewarded for their efforts over the next two weeks. You become the center of attention. Make good use of this opportunity by launching any new personal projects and meeting tons of new influential folks. They may be able to advance your most ambitious plans. For those with more modest goals, find a party posse and pass the egg nog.

AQUARIUS (JANUARY 21 - FEBRUARY 19)
Get rid of any secrets that have been holding you back, Aquarius. It’s time to toss off your burden, open the window and get a bit of fresh air. Your long held values are examined and dissected before the new year. Hold on to what makes you happy and toss out what is no longer affirming. Then deck your halls and roast your chestnuts.

PISCES (FEBRUARY 20 - MARCH 20)
Friends can make your holiday especially merry and bright. Let them do all the party planning and then you can tag along without having to do anything but relax and enjoy. Expand your social circle into a globe, join a new club and see how many new folks you can meet. Do I see eight tiny reindeer and a guy in a red suit in your future, Pisces?

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